Okay I was reading HT again and when Circenn wanted to bed Lisa but she refused he said something that made a lot of sense
"Your virginity is a piece of skin, a membrane, Lisa. My first love was long ago and it has not changed who I am in any fashion. Mind you, I am not saying you should give the gift of lovemaking to just anyone. But an obsession with virginity is absurd and serves no purpose but to make a woman turn away from a fine part o her nature. Women and men have same desires-at least they do until the priestshave their go at the women and convince then it is shameful. What priest should be saying is 'choose well.'"
And I have to agree with him it's a gift and why not explore and I know it sounds a little bit hypocritical of me to say because I believe in respecting yourself but at the same time why deprive yourself of such pleasure, don't do it with any man but someone who really cares about you vice versa. I like the way Circenn thinks